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    Anne

    18th May 2017

    Wow, you have such a beautiful way of writing and conveying your story. I am just new to your blog, but I love it. I also really love the pictures you took 🙂

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      Alex

      30th May 2017

      Thanks so much Anne! I’m always so happy to hear from new folks discovering my blog and loving what they find – hope you enjoy your stay! xx

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    Amber

    18th May 2017

    Beautiful prose! This really resonated with me. I’ve felt so lost in terms of trying to make friends over the past few years; I was forcing my way into conversations, trying to get people to be interested in me. It was only when I laid back a bit, really began to enjoy those few people around me, and stopped worrying that people began to come to me with an interest in my life. It’s quality, not quantity after all. 🙂

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      Alex

      30th May 2017

      Thanks Amber. I know the feeling and completely agree – quality over quantity all the way! xx

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    Moonchild

    19th May 2017

    You may be solitary and introvert but I’m proud to call you one of my favourite friends just the same and I value you, more than you realise 😛 You mean the world to me. My twenties were richer for having to you around xxx

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      Alex

      30th May 2017

      You may be extroverted but my twenties are richer for you too! 😜 xxx

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    Eleanor Austin

    19th May 2017

    This is beautifully written and so relatable. I didn’t go to university, whereas a lot of my friends did so we all kind of lost touch. I don’t like drinking or clubbing and always feel awkward in heavy social situations. I too have found it difficult to make friends in my twenties, I’m quite a plain Jane and I don’t think this appeals to many people and I never know if this bothers me or not. I have a wonderful partner, a lovely family and I don’t mind being on my own. I guess it’s when you see other people in friendship groups or meeting people online, it’s kind of like you’re missing out xx

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      Alex

      30th May 2017

      Hi Eleanor, thanks so much. I really know how you feel. Although I did go to uni, all my friends went elsewhere and even if we kept in touch, it’s not quite the same as when you lived in the same place. It’s such a tricky, transitional period of life. I’m not sure the difficulty in making or maintaining friendships is something really talked about enough xx

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    Alice

    19th May 2017

    I feel that I may be the turn-it-upside-down kinda person filled with self-confident delights…but then there’s space for us all! I totally agree, it’s both sad and refreshing that in your twenties your friends do dwindle in numbers but become more meaningful as those who stick around are food for the soul and make you the best you can be! Alice xxx

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      Alex

      30th May 2017

      When you’re not that person I think it’s easy to blame yourself for any solitude or loneliness you feel – especially when others, clearly having a good time are right in front of you. But you can’t force friendships. People come and go and often it has nothing to do with you, but where life is taking them. xxx

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    Amelia May

    19th May 2017

    Beautiful post and it’s very reasurring to read. It seems we’re very like minded on the idea of solitude. Radiant pictures. Xx

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    Hannah

    20th May 2017

    I can relate to this post so much, I have also found friendships difficult in my twenties. Most friendships from School and University seem to fizzle out when you reach your twenties. Like you being alone isn’t an issue for me either but it would be nice to meet some like minded people who love cosy nights in and walks in the countryside! x

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      Alex

      30th May 2017

      Thanks Hannah ^_^ And I do love a good cosy night and walk in the countryside – I’m sure we could be friends! xx

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    Mimmi

    20th May 2017

    This is beautifully written, and I can relate so much. I’ve always found it difficult making close friends, and I’m also a bit of a quiet, thoughtful and unadventurous person. Most of my closest friends (who aren’t many at all to begin with) aren’t people I see on a regular basis. Instead, they’re scattered around the country or even further away. I think I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’ll always be a loner and that it’s okay to not have a girl gang (which I always wanted!) and that the important thing is to value the individuals that you really enjoy spending time with.

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      Alex

      30th May 2017

      Thanks Mimi. Here’s to those of us who are quiet, thoughtful and unadventurous! I was always someone who grew up feeling like you should have your girl gang or tight-knit group of close friends. But sometimes life doesn’t work out like that and I shouldn’t blame myself for that. Who comes into your life – or often who leaves – has very little to do with you. xx

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    Grace

    23rd May 2017

    Written so well! To an extent, I can relate. Making friends in your 20s–and holding on to said friends–outside of college is a challenge. Being alone is just as good sometimes as being around new people ha

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    Lucy

    9th June 2017

    I totally agree with everything you said – I have lots of ‘friends’ that I meet up with regularly but no one I would be able to depend on in a crisis. I’m lucky in that I have a great boyfriend, a close family and like time to myself but I’ve always felt let down with the friend side of my life! University certainly excentuates the feeling of missing out and I had many hollow friendships and let downs over those 4 years. It’s reassuring to hear someone who is bright and attractive also feel like this, and be brave enough to say it! Thank you for such a candid piece, I’m sure it’s touched many more people than those who have commented xx

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      Alex

      10th June 2017

      Lucy! Thank you so much for this comment! I was really touched to read it. I’m so glad to hear I’ve perhaps provided a piece of writing that’s helps in some way. Thank you for letting me know xx

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